My Rules vs. His Word: The illusion of control in parenting

 As I mentioned in a previous article, I believe power can make people more prone to corruption and even lead them to do foolish things. I then brought up the idea that parenting is becoming kind of like that. And people just slowly fall into the pattern of we’ll never understand, so we shouldn't question it. No one understands rocket science, but people still gave it a crack… Anyway, I looked into power and corruption, and it's almost exactly linked to parenting, in the biblical sense. The Pharisees in the New Testament literally just made crap up so they would still have power; they wanted to play God. ( Matthew 23). Some people in the bible decided it would be okay to do things “ because they said so”. Pharaoh is a great example, enslaving people because he was afraid they’d become too powerful. ( Exodus 5-12) Hm. But that’s a really interesting example if you apply it to what's happening currently. But that’s a whole other article. 


Now, let me clarify, I’m not trying to accuse or assume parents of being corrupt because they are in the position they are. I’m saying that I see it a lot in the home I’m currently being raised in. There is this idea in society that once you hold a higher position or a place of power that you then have to do anything and everything to stay in that position. Even at the expense of your superiors. So when it comes to parenting, when you raise a child on the logic of listen to me or else, it can be hard not to for the child to assume that you're just being mean. I talked to some friends who, because of the way their parents treat them, don't want to have kids at all. One friend said, “ I don’t want to take the risk of ending up like them, no kid deserves that”. And parents say that we’ll all end up doing things we never thought we would do, like hit our kids, and I think that that kind of logic is bullfrog.


 I think instead of falling into a pattern of that just the way things are, we should question why they exist in the first place. For me, that's going back to the bible and looking at these verses that people use to justify hitting your child, and it would take my own discernment to see that it's not talking about whooping your child. It’s talking about disciplining a child, and if you don't, he/she is going to end up spoiled rotten. It takes me to sit there and think about all the reasons someone hits someone, and 99% of the time, they do it when they’re out of control, in blind anger. Parents want to be in control of their children, and some parents will do anything, and if everything, to stay in that position, and I am telling you there is a big difference between authority and control. 


Children who are being controlled listen in fear of consequences. Verses children who have authoritative figures in their lives, love and respect them, and are still afraid, but they fear their parents' disappointment over the belt. Fear is good, sure, but force is never okay. Don’t be the government, okay, be open and honest with your children, and you will receive it back tenfold. Pay your taxes, or the IRS will break down your door.

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